HEARTBREAK ALERT: 7 WAYS TO OVERCOME BREAKFAST.
Have you ever felt that heavy feeling in your chest when your partner cheats on you? Yeah, that’s what you refer to as a heartbreak or commonly known as “breakfast”. A heartbreak is simply a loss of deeply felt emotions. It’s a feeling of an overwhelming sense of sadness and grief.
The worst is probably when you like someone and this person leads you on till you realize it was a one-sided relationship….. which in my case, you call unrequited love. (This is love that is not returned or rewarded. It’s a one-sided sad experience that could leave you feeling pain, grief, and shame).
So I was in this situation-ship with a guy I liked very much, we started as really close friends till I developed feelings later on. Anyways, after the first two months, I started seeing him around one babe like this but I didn’t want to suspect anything because I thought the feelings were mutual and I trusted him and all so, I just dropped it off my mind.
Would you believe that this guy started dating her about three weeks later? Not only that: I was one of the last people to know that this guy was in a relationship with this girl. And it had been on for three weeks! Behind my back. I didn’t even know how to approach him outside. I felt terrible, I felt so stupid. Later on, he comes with this long epistle on Instagram to tell me that he didn’t know he was going to tell me that the feelings weren’t mutual.
FUN FACT: THIS WAS DURING THE EXAMINATION PERIOD. Instead of me to be reading for my exams, I was crying like a baby. My best friend nursed me throughout that time. One of the worst times of my life.
These kinds of situations aren’t always clear and cause a lot of complications and emotional chaos. It’s okay to feel this way sometimes, it’s normal to chop breakfast.
You can pour everything on the closest person beside you in boiling tears. Or feel depressed and have thoughts of never loving anyone again. You can be in the category of those that watch Korean series and take a bucket of ice cream or the category of playing heartbreak songs loudly in your ears, probably get drunk to a stupor. We just have to make sure to it doesn’t take over you so you don’t lose focus.
Ways to Overcome a Heartbreak
1. Take time to grieve.
Take as much time as you need to think of all the pain and grief the heartbreak must have caused you. It’s going to be a difficult scar to heal. Reminisce on all the good times and bad of that time. Separate from people if you need to. Just take your time to get right back from where you left.
Put the past where it’s supposed to be. Behind you. Be the bigger person and forgive your partner for everything that might have transpired between the both of you. Also, forgive yourself as well. That way you have no right to feel guilty about anything that had happened.
3. Make a list of what you like about yourself
The purpose of this is to include all the areas of your life and take into account the full range of your experiences and behaviors. Use this as an opportunity to discover yourself. Things you can do better, things that make you happy or give you joy. Give yourself a self-analysis to know who you are and how to improve yourself. Aren’t you curious about what other things you can do with yourself?
4. Acknowledge thoughts about your former partner
I know this one may not sound like something you want to be doing during your healing process. All you might be probably thinking are just the bad things that might have happened while you were together. “Men/women are scum!”. With all honesty, it’s not going to make things better for you. Instead, think of the good qualities your partner had. It helps in letting go of the grudge that has been built from the heartbreak.
5. Go out and socialize
You have spent a long time in your moody shell. It’s time to go out and meet up with people. Catch up with people, make new friends, and live your best life. You don’t know who might bump into you to even be better than your last. They are plenty of fishes in the sea, you just have to keep throwing your rod to catch the best one there.
6. Find relief in exercise and movement.
Keep fit and do exercises regularly. Go on walks to have breathing space from all the mental distress you have been through. You can also try meditating. It helps in promoting your emotional health and enhances self-awareness. Words of affirmation also help during meditations. Remember, your health is the priority, No one is permitted
7. Treat yourself
After all the tears and pain you have gone through, It’s high time you treat yourself right. Take yourself out, go out on a shopping spree, make that goddess braids you have always wanted to do, Take pictures, and order that chairman-sized pizza. Just make yourself a better person physically. Look good not just for the next person that is yet to see you, but for yourself. I mean, you can’t impress people, right?
“Chopping breakfast” isn’t the end of the world or isn’t the end of your love life. Grief yields growth. When we proceed through grief with loving-kindness to the parts of ourselves that are hurting or believing something is wrong with us, we allow more space to expand and transform. Heartbreak also teaches us that life goes on regardless of what we do and that we can only learn to embrace these circumstances and slowly let go of them. When you decide to move forward, don’t look back and fall. Let yourself grieve and heal. Get up and move on.